we connect often Anger With outbursts, violence and pitfalls but it can also have many benefits such as the ability to be candid, honest and kind Communications, a strong sense of self and the ability to ask for what we want. The key component to accessing the benefits of anger is regulation. When we are emotionally controlled, we can ride our own waves feelings in a limited and supported manner. We can receive our feelings and their messages with curiosity, and we practice communicating what we need in assertive ways. We can turn to our feelings of all shapes and sizes, with curiosity, listening and understanding the message. (Also read: 10 ways to deal with anger: Experts share tips,
Sarah Aird, storyteller, educator, and founder of Breaking Down CPTSD, talked about healthy anger and emotion regulation in her recent Instagram post.
What is emotion regulation?
It is the ability to navigate the full spectrum of emotions, both pleasant and unpleasant. Emotion regulation is having the skill to listen and understand the messages of your feelings and to be able to communicate how you are feeling to others. It helps to choose how you respond and act once you are in tune with what you are feeling and what you are feeling. Emotion regulation isn’t about feeling calm all the time or taking full control of your emotions or doing whatever your emotions are telling you to do.
Emotions are our internal messaging system
They tell us when we are mourning a loss (sadness), they tell us when we should slow down and focus (fear), and when we are content (contentment). Emotional distortion can be described as a backlog without the skill to read messages. Over time, backlogged messages get louder and faster.
What is the message of anger?
The message of anger is centered around boundaries, accountability, security, autonomy, and independence. Anger helps us to isolate and isolate from the people around us. It monitors our relational interactions and speaks volumes when we are misunderstood, harmed, or attacked. Anger helps us to know what is our responsibility and what is the responsibility of the other person. Free-flowing anger will allow you to laugh compassionately at yourself and set limits on kindness because both actions stem from the inner strength and respectful self-definition that anger provides. When your anger isn’t allowed its natural flow, you’ll have trouble setting and maintaining your own boundaries, you’ll humiliate or defraud others, and your self-image may depend on outsiders’ mind-boggling thoughts. will be put in danger. World.
What is the message of deep and layered anger?
Our boundaries, our sense of self, and our defenses are completely invaded and devastated. When deep and layered anger is supported and heard rather than expressed inappropriately, it becomes a call to heal a devastated and vulnerable soul.